It isn’t easy to take an honest, vulnerable look at your dating experiences. Try publishing it for everyone to read. In Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl: On Her Journey from Neediness to Freedom, Paula Hendricks describes how her revolving door relationship with “cute, innocent crushes,” eventually became costly investments. The writing manager of Revive Our Hearts and frequent blogger on Lies Young Women Believe opens up her heart (and her journal entries) to share all her personal triumphs, tears and the truth that set her free.
But this isn’t your typical dating/singleness/relationship book. It’s an invitation to follow God with the most vulnerable, fragile, and hope-hungry pieces of your heart, written by a young woman offering her personal journey as “Exhibit A.” For Paula, trusting God with her love life meant total surrender: “I never thought I’d say this, but I was treating God like a math equation: trust God + wait on God + pray about everything +be led by Scripture = getting the guy and the love I’ve always wanted. But I was never any good at math. And God is not a formula.”
The book is divided into two parts, sort of a spiritual before-and-after: “The Searching (Doing It My Way)” and “The Breaking and Remaking (Relinquishing Control).” What I love about Paula’s book is her ability to hit the root issue of the heart, sometimes even hitting a nerve. She talks about the danger of “Awakening Love” (ch. 3) before the right time and running ahead of reality with “The Relationship in My Head” (ch. 6). And who hasn’t bought into the lie that romantic bliss is just a cosmetic counter away, convincing ourselves, “If I Could Just Be Beautiful Enough” (ch. 4)? She even addresses that confusing time, “When You Get What You Want But It’s All Wrong” (ch. 12) and the painful, humiliating setback of rejection in “The Part Where Everything’s Supposed to End Happily Ever After (ch. 15).
After a string of heartbreaks and disappointments, Paula came to a profound realization: In running after love, she was actually running away from it. The love and the identity she had been chasing was a God-sized craving. And in a moment of total soul-transparency, Paula’s love life was changed from the inside out. “Suddenly I realized I didn’t have to be jealous of that pretty girl. I didn’t have to covet every guy I saw. I didn’t have to hate that guy for not liking me. I wasn’t powerless anymore. In fact, in Christ I was no longer that helpless, hopeless boy-crazy girl. I had a new identity now.” To discover how…you’ll have to get the book!
I wish I’d had read this when I was in college! Ideal for young women in their teens and twenties, Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl is both lighthearted and spiritually deep. Paula writes in a voice of emotional maturity and a candidness that makes you feel like you’re sitting together and sipping Caramel Macchiatos. Its fast-paced chapters are saturated with Scripture, sound theology, and Paula’s witty sense of humor. Make sure you, your daughter, or the boy-crazy girl in your life has this book for the journey from neediness to freedom!
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Big thanks to Paula and Moody Publishers for sending a copy of her book! Opinions are mine and unsolicited. In fact, they didn’t even ask for a review – it’s just that great of a book that we had to share it with you!
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